Why What You Say and How You Say It Is Important: The Power of Saying

There is tremendous power in what you say and how you say it, whether you are aware that you have this kind of power or not.

Saying can make or break the lives of others.

There are many different ways of saying things and many of them constitute non-verbal expressions of your thoughts. Your voice speaks in the active and passive sense by your words, deeds and actions. Everything you say or do, makes a statement of some kind. Even when you abstain from stating or doing something, it is still saying something. Saying takes on many different forms including your posture and gestures.

The freedictionary.com defines the word say in a number of different ways including “to utter aloud”, “to express in words” and “to state one’s opinion or judgment”. It can also mean “to state as a determination of fact”, “to repeat or recite” or “to report or maintain”. The word say includes “to indicate” and “to give nonverbal expression to” something, as well.   

While most of what you say is a reflection of your ongoing thought processes, what you say may be intentional and directed towards a specific purpose. Note that while using coarse, vulgar or inappropriate words or doing inappropriate deeds and actions, can convey or release your personal frustration and anger, this may not empower you or influence others in a positive, constructive manner.  

On the other hand, your choice of positive, constructive words and deeds can empower you, as well as motivate others. Learning to control what you say and how you say it gives you empowerment whether you realize it or not.

Saying, writing or expressing everything that you think may be inappropriate at times and unnecessary. Refraining from speaking or holding back on your words, deeds or actions when you are thinking something can place you in a better position. In terms of establishing and maintaining personal relationships, judging others by what you say can prove detrimental to you and them.

There will be times when you will be glad that you said nothing or remained silent, even though your thoughts were running rampant.

Giving others the opportunity to express themselves fully is always important. Instead of interrupting or judging them by what you say, show that you are a good listener. If you refrain from speaking or acting until it is the right time and place, it will reveal your patience and understanding. Your communication skills and wisdom will be evident. Religious or cultural tolerance can be very important with respect to what you say and how you say it.

Always be aware that what you say and how you say it may be subject to misunderstanding by others and cause tension or conflict. A kind, loving and gentle approach to what you say and how you say it will reap its own rewards.